If reports are to be believed, every 5 in 8 women, at some points of their lives, experience domestic violence, which may include sexual assault, economic abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, or verbal abuse. For many, it’s the part of their lives.
Verbal abuse is one of the most common types of abusive behavior and is more prevalent than any other kind of domestic violence in families. Here, the blog post talks about some common patterns of verbal abuse you should know:
It can be hard-to-digest that manipulation is a part of violence. 80% of women may find it extremely difficult to find out the way their partners manipulate, revolve the situation around them, and trap them in a state of guilt. A few simple words make a situation goes in their favor. For instance – “If you truly love me, you would not have reacted like this.” Even nice partners can be unreal and play blame game.
Sarcasm and Criticism
It is hard to battle when sarcasm turns out to be a normal conversation. A regular but light sarcasm in tone is the supremacy of many partners. When you are a subject of all your partner’s jokes, this may be a sign to identify. In many cases, it remains undetected due to the frequent occurrence.
Constructive criticism is healthy but constant criticism is destructive for your self-esteem. For example – “You have started looking very ugly and fat day by day. Stop eating like animals.”
Threatening is the most explicit form of violence and belongs to males who consider possessive behavior as their power. Dependent women are likely to be threatened more than women who work. Sometimes, the culprit is more cunning while threatening his partner, which is a weapon of convincing. For instance – “If you go, I’ll kill myself today.”
Name-calling is often related to yelling, arguments, or shouting behavior. Use of all kinds of aggressive phrases indicates to an unhealthy conversation with the partner. In a healthy relationship, partners talk through the issues without hurting any of them while in an unhealthy relationship the culprit will keep yelling to his partner until he gets satisfied.
Example: “Are you a fool? Why don’t you understand, idiot.”
Well, it’s a kind of tricky silent treatment to make other half agree. Some people think that it is a symbol of healthy relationships. However, when it continues to go on, it becomes a part of violence to hurt women partners. Withholding is the second form of controlling behavior, in which women have to give up on their partners’ wish. Withholding may also include refusing of calls, unanswered texts, not talking to the partner, not sleeping beside her, etc.
It reveals two different sides of the same partner. This pattern is incredibly effective to confuse or convince. One moment, the partner behaves like an animal, and then suddenly he turns into a caring and loving better-half. It becomes hard for a woman to identify the real face.
These are a few verbal abuse patterns followed by men to hurt their female partners. If you want to have detailed information and discover such more patterns, contact ‘Women Rising Above Abuse’, a non-profit organization for domestic violence victims. This organization helps abuse victims in their journey to healing and empower them to lead an abuse-free, happy life.