Domestic violence is a social problem that causes more pain for women than visible scars. Getting abused by the person whom you love has a ripple effect on your mind, body, and soul. Abuse can be more than just physical violence. There are different forms of domestic abuse – mental, financial, emotional, sexual, verbal, and indirect. There is a vicious cycle of abuse – the abuser beats up the victim, he feels guilty, apologizes, tension builds up, and then abuse happens again. The heart of this problem is that the victim remains silent. Silence allows sin to thrive and the abuser feels more powerful day by day. Women Rising Above Abuse, a non-profit organization for domestic violence victims, is sharing the dangers of being silent in an abusive relationship and what you can do to come out of this vicious cycle.
- It’s a Silent Killer
Staying with an abusive partner is worse than leaving. Abuse is not always visible in the form of physical scars. 80 percent of abuse cases do not involve scars and injuries, they present more dangerous situations – mental harassment, financial abuse, marital rape, and more.
Victims are often influenced by their abusers that they are their protectors. Abusers also give rewards and small gifts to defend them in front of everyone, resulting in the escalation of the abusive pattern. The trauma of intimidation, fear, cruelty, torture, and abuse will take away your life at the end.
- Risk of Isolation and Depression
Living in an abusive relationship is more likely to cause depression and loneliness than other life and work stress. Emotional assault by your partner can lead to the suppression of your emotions. Either you will isolate yourself from others or your abuser may create social isolation for you because you were silent all these times. A depressed victim feels sad, anxious, empty, unloved, worthless, helpless, restless, disassociated, and lack of interest in any activities or hobbies. Living such a life is far more dangerous than you can imagine.
- You May Develop Behavioral Problems
Women prone to domestic violence become depressed and isolated. They lose the ability to trust anyone. They may try to attempt suicide or engage in substance abuse. They may not talk or socialize with people in their surroundings because of the emotional trauma they are going through each day. They become desensitized to abuse and accept it as normal over time. Staying silent can prolong your sufferings. Speak up!
Breaking the Silence
Silence is not the solution. Silence is the problem. Break this silence and get help. Here is how you can get help to end the cycle of abuse and leave your abuser forever:
- Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE (800-799-7233). They are available 24/7/365 days to help you get out of the abusive situation and plan your new life.
- Once you leave your abuser, join the empowerment workshops conducted by non-profit organizations for domestic violence victims like WRAA to get inspirations from women like you on how to transition from a survivor, to warrior, and then overcomer.
- You can also talk about your ordeal with someone you know and trust, such as family member, friend, or neighbor. They will help you mentally and support you with the transition.
You are not alone. We are here to help you. Don’t let your silence help abuser to gain full control and power over you. End this silence. Let your voice be heard by people you trust, any non-profit organization for domestic violence victims, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline. You need to speak up now if you want to live an abuse-free, healthier, and happier life.